Join me in reflecting on self-confidence vs. confidence, the benefits of stepping outside my comfort zone, taking that next step and growing!
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During this episode you will learn about;
[0:00] Finish Your Charting at Work
[1:35] Today’s Topic: Confidence vs. Self Confidence.
[3:26] How relying on the past can hold you back
[5:11] Examples of self-confidence
[6:57] How can you generate self-confidence vs relying on confidence?
[9:02] You get to choose the thoughts that you have to move forward.
[11:18] You get to choose what you make something mean
[13:20] Where are you going to choose to apply self confidence this week?
[15:42] Go do something new!
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Transcript
Dr. Ryan Stegink 0:00
If you’ve been looking at how can I take my charting in medicine, from chaos to complete, if you’re looking to finish your charting at work, I want you to know that I am doing a free webinar on Wednesday, November 2, at 9pm. Eastern, designed to help you get your work done at work, we’ll go over three keys to getting that work done. I can’t wait to see you many of you there, you can sign up at coaching.mededwell.com/finished charting. That link will be in the show notes. Welcome to the MedEdWell physicians to get work done and then be able to reflect what’s important in life. general pediatrician, physicians, thank you so much for joining me for another episode of the MedEdWell podcast. Thank you so much for subscribing, for sharing. And for really engaging with these concepts. I decided why not bring you behind the scenes with an opportunity to see how this goes as I’m recording it live this time on Instagram. I can’t wait to hear how you take your next step forward in wellness. Today, we’re going to be talking about confidence versus self confidence. As many of you may know, I’ve recently gone through the coaching program to become a life coach and recently achieved my certification. When I started out, I was still working on like competence and how I approach things. And one of the sessions we talked about the difference between confidence and self confidence, confidence being looking back at how things have gone in the past, and basing my certainty and my level of self assuredness on how things had gone before. For instance, how I’ve done on particular test or other opportunities I’ve had to speak that self confidence is saying even though I may not have done this before, I know that I can do hard things. I believe in myself. And I can do this. So I want to give you a few examples. Not only was my coach training part of that, I consider myself a bit of an introvert and especially prior to starting this podcast, I really didn’t feel like I could speak out loud in a way that could be spontaneous. Sure, I was social. But speaking often has made me nervous. Maybe you can relate. And yet, as I went through this program, I learned to work on my thoughts and my mindset, how I approach things. And while in medicine, I could look back on all the times that I had taken a history than a physical exam, presented on rounds are called consultants. Really, I had that within me. I just had to access it to remind myself of some of these things that were true about my capacity and how I showed up and really put myself out there. It didn’t matter that I may not have done that particular thing before, but I could could take those steps to move forward into grow into that. So not only coach training, but also medical school. I had never done medical school before. I had never taken a histology class, even though I had done physics major and done my pre medical classwork. But I had a year biology and a semester while biochemistry that was about it. So I really had to seek out additional help and just go for it and believe that no matter what I was going to make it and so even though I failed my first histology test, I was able to take steps to make it work. Additionally, then I look back on my career As a soccer goalie,
many of you may have played sports growing up or have some other hobby that you enjoy that keeps you active. For me, it was soccer. I was the goalkeeper for goalie. And growing up, I was on the travel team for a few years. And that was never the best, or the top tier team. But in high school, the football season was at the same time as the soccer season. So honestly, that helped me advance because the other goal is we’re playing football. So I get to my senior year. And I’ve had opportunities to be a part of big games or penalty kicks. And I’ve never played some of these big teams. And I just had to go by that feeling of I can do this. Sure there’s the competence piece of I’ve done some of this before, but it’s going forth and doing it in that new context. On the varsity field, it really took some self confidence for me to be able to step into that in a way that I was able to show up and grow in ways that if I just said, Well, I haven’t done this before, it’s not going to work. One way that I didn’t step into that was looking back at when I was in second grade, and I was having a debate or discussion with another classmate. And my teacher interjected and said, Ryan, stand up for yourself. And so like a good literal, second grader, I stood up. I didn’t have self confidence in myself, and how to work through that and how to advocate for myself, is a learning process. So I want to share with you a few ways that you can generate self confidence, versus just relying on confidence as you go through your day. So maybe this new circumstance comes up something that by itself is totally neutral. And there’s a lot of times, things that come up for us feelings, we experience, emotions, just are kind of there. And it’s sometimes hard to really wrap your mind around that that circumstance is actually neutral. Really, there’s a thought, maybe some subconscious, but it’s there. And it affects in generates that feeling. So whether that circumstances, looking at charting, or how many patients are on your schedule. In the past, I would say, Oh, this is how my schedule looks. And therefore I’m stressed. Well, really, it’s the thought I have about that schedule, or my charts that I have left to do. Let’s say that’s a lot. I don’t know if I can get home on time. Whatever it may be those things that as you really reflect on it. It’s like, oh, that’s why I’m feeling stress. By thought I can do this, I’ve got this, this is gonna be a good day. That can help in generate different feelings. Because ultimately, if we’re feeling stressed, sometimes that can lead to not being patients irritable. At least that’s just for me. If you’re in a similar frame of mind, I just want you to know that you’re not alone. So, ultimately, when you face those circumstances in your day, we all face them. Ultimately, you get to choose the thought. And if it’s something new that previously might have generated anxiety, ultimately you get to choose intentional thoughts that can generate that self confidence for you. That feeling that allows you to take those actions to move forward in the ways that you want First, you get to choose the thoughts that you have to move forward.
And number two, even if you don’t achieve something, exactly how you had hoped, or you had set out to, ultimately, you get to choose what you make that mean. So I’m launching a coaching program for physicians to help them finish their charting at work. And this webinars that you heard about on the intro, that’s part of me putting myself out there to say, I want to help as many physicians as I can. And ultimately, I can make that offer. And no matter how many choose to join me, ultimately, I get to choose when I make that mean. So for this beta launch, if I have two people, five people, 10 people, ultimately, if I decide that I’m going to choose to be grateful for each person who decided to invest in themselves and join me on this journey, ultimately, that just makes me feel more excited. Rather than saying, Oh, I got three people to sign up, and not 10, I’m now I’m disappointed. So a lot of it comes down to expectations and how we respond to them. So it might be something else, whether you had to retake one of your board exams, or the step exams in medical school. And it it really, those can be opportunities. Difficult, though, they may seem in the moment, to grow, to say, I can deal with adversity, that I can do this. And then sure, there’s the confidence piece of, okay, I’ve done this particular thing, but maybe it’s not that same thing. It’s saying, I know that I can do hard things. And I’m a person of integrity, and that I can move forward and go for it. And these, these thoughts that we have, that are just kind of there, that those circumstances come up. So you failed something. But ultimately, that doesn’t define your value as a person, it doesn’t mean that you’re a failure. But it’s that thought that you have that allows you to say, oh, okay, I’m gonna learn something from this. And though it may require some more work, I’m going to take those next steps forward. Which leads right into the third point of generating self confidence and how you respond to some of these situations is that it’s important to choose curiosity and self compassion. Because these things will come up, and it might not be what you expect. And it’s easy to just look at myself and say, well, I should have done this, or I should have done that. And to give myself a hard time or to keep blame. And ultimately, if we’re looking at, okay, how can I do this differently? It was Thomas Edison that said, I haven’t failed. I’ve learned 10,000 ways not to make a light bulb. It’s choosing to say, Okay, this is my journey. And I’m going to have some self compassion so that I can take those steps forward, so that I care for myself, and don’t just beat myself up, which ends up leaving me in a cycle of, I’m not moving forward. So now, I want to challenge you to take your next step. Where are you going to choose to apply self confidence this week? Is it stepping up to take this new opportunity? Maybe someone asked you to speak at Grand Rounds, or somewhere else. It may be that you step up and connect with other physicians and advocate to the insurance companies about coverage of a particular medication of patient problem that you care for on a regular basis. Or maybe it’s choosing to invest in yourself and your charting by joining me, my coaching program chartingmastery
could look any number of different ways. But I want you to take that moment and say, Where have I been holding back? Where have I shrank back because I haven’t done this before. Sometimes, we think it’s just imposter syndrome that’s keeping us from doing this. But impostor syndrome and self confidence or lack thereof, I think really go together because it’s saying, Well, I’m comparing myself to someone else, we’re comparing myself to what I’ve done in the past. take that next step. And tell yourself, I can do this. And I can learn and grow and care for myself and for others, and whatever that is that you choose to do. So while these may be new things, but stepping outside our comfort zones, each of us, myself included, can grow. We can invest in ourselves and others, and have the impact that each of us wants. I want to encourage you to take a moment and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it, whether another physician or a friend, colleague. I’m so appreciative of how this podcast has helped me grow. And I hope it’s done the same for you. If you are looking to invest in yourself and your charting, so that you can get home sooner for what matters most. I want to encourage you to check out the link in the show notes for chartingmastery. Can’t wait to share with you my next episode. And I look forward to seeing all of you then. Have a great day. Now for our important display. Doctor practicing general nutrition the MedEdWell podcast is not
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